April Overview

I’ve literally just realised that it is well into May and that I am overdue posting a round-up of my achievements in April.

This is probably going to be a short post as I don’t feel like I’ve achieved anything. It’s just been one of those really busy months where you don’t actually do anything of real merit, but it has exhausted you anyway.

Plus, I haven’t been posting very much recently. Work is crazy and my head just hasn’t been in a happy, blogging place.

But I’ve been here before, and my monthly overviews generally help me to realise that my life has actually been progressing more than I initially thought. (I hope!)

So, here goes..

Recent achievements

  • My new website for my life coaching business is up-and-running and I have even posted some stuff. Only problem is, I have 1 subscriber so far, and literally no traffic. It is becoming a little disheartening and I’m not too sure what to do next. It is so easy to just give up, but I want this! My life is pretty jam-packed right now and I need the time and motivation to grab it by the balls and run with it. So this will be one of my goals.. if you fancy taking a look, you can find it over at http://www.ahappierlifeforyou.co.uk.
  • Girly alert! I decided to get eyelash extensions, which I think is the most girly thing I have ever done. I’m one of those girls (women) who has a standard look – a bit of liquid eyeliner, concealer and mascara, and if I’m happy with it, I’m ready to go. My eyelashes though are really fine, and without mascara can look virtually invisible. I can’t apply fake eyelashes for love or money, but wanted to make my life a little bit easier, and also treat myself. Ok, so they aren’t cheap but they do look lovely. For once, I can wake up and be ready to go!!
  • I painted my bedroom!! I find decorating to be a massive chore and have held off on painting my bedroom and the spare room. To be honest, I couldn’t really be bothered, and not many people see them so I didn’t see the point. But I had a tin of white emulsion left over from painting my son’s ceiling, and I just went for it one weekend. Looks miles better. Need some nice accessories now.
  • I had a week off from work. Yay! This was an achievement because work is pretty hellish right now, and any time away from the place is a massive bonus to life in general, and also my mental health. I am becoming a little stressed out with it all. 😔

Told you. Not many achievements. I’m exhausted a lot of the time toiling away at a job I am beginning to hate, and I can’t see a respite in the near future.

But, let’s try to remain positive!

Goals for May

  1. I need to seriously look at my future with regards to my career. I can’t carry on working my backside off in a dead end job, so it is time to get off said backside and do something about it.
  2. I need to start working on my business and taking it seriously. I know it’s going to be hard work getting it off the ground, so I need to look at reducing some of my commitments. The only commitment I want to reduce is my job. So I’m in a bit of a predicament!
  3. Work on my website, IG and Facebook pages. I spend loads of time on my recreational Facebook pages but I need to concentrate on the stuff that I am hoping will make me money! Yeah, it’s fun to write poetry and post pretty pictures, but it ain’t making me a living! Sadly.
  4. Complete my coaching courses. Another thing I have fallen behind on. Once completed, I have been considering doing a course in business, so I know how to run one!
  5. Catch up with my friends. I’m feeling pretty social this month so have been arranging days and nights out with my closest pals. All work and no play makes Jo a dull girl!
  6. Post more on my blog! Goes without saying really, but with all of the above, will I really have the time?! 🤔

So, lots to do! Let’s hope my overview for May is more positive!

Have a fab weekend!

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5 Tips For Staying Single (The Definitive Guide To Being Weird And Alone)

There are lots and lots of posts out there giving relationship advice, or “how to find love.” Some of us, however, don’t want to find love, date, be in a relationship, or even speak to the opposite sex, or anybody for that matter.

So what are the best ways to put men, or women, off you completely? I have to admit, I am an expert in this. Following on from a few dating disasters, and just everyday life working with idiots, I decided to give up on my love life completely, and have been steadily building sky-high walls ever since that nobody is ever going to consider scaling.

But do I never get lonely? Actually, no. I love my own company and have become strangely addicted to my drama-free life. If I want adult company then I can always initiate it, but why bother when I can spend time alone.

Don’t I miss being with someone? Nah, not really. I’ve finally come to terms with the fact that I’m quite an odd person who needs a lot of time to herself, and other people don’t always understand this. It has taken me a fair few years of relentlessly pushing people away to achieve this level of contentment and I’m not giving it up for anyone.

Sounds miserable and spinster-ish? Well yeah, I suppose it is to some people, but not to me. I can do what I want, when I want, with who I want – or with nobody, which is even better.

Here are my five pointers to putting people off you completely.

  1. Consistently ignore all attempts at communication via phone, email, WhatsApp, Facebook, whatever. In the end, they will get the message.
  2. If you notice somebody keeps throwing you one too many glances or trying to strike up a conversation, just start acting like they don’t exist. Yep, completely blank them. Unless they are some kind of persistent weirdo, they will give up sooner or later.
  3. Be deliberately foul or argumentative to the opposite sex. And never smile. Surefire way to put people off.
  4. Argue with yourself in public. This is a tad extreme but works wonders. Who wants to associate with the crazy freak who screams at herself in front of other people?
  5. Stop washing. Also extreme, but I assume it would work. I haven’t ever had to resort to this because my resting bitch face is enough to put the bravest of people off, but it’s certainly an option.

Good luck out there! And remember:

March Overview

Well, March has been a busy month for me with various comings and goings, and a little decision-making too.

I’m hoping that April and beyond will witness a huge change to my life, one that I have wanted for a long, long time. Exciting times!

So, let’s jump straight to it.

Recent achievements:

  • I have finally decided what I want to be when I grow up, and I have even created a website, an Instagram, and a Facebook page for my new life coaching venture, A Happier Life For You. It is still very early days and I am taking it all one step at a time. I don’t think becoming self-employed is something I should rush into. I am also mulling over the best way to market myself – if anybody has any suggestions or feedback, please don’t hesitate to let me know.
  • Work was getting a little more exciting, with a variety of new tasks coming my way, which made my working week so much more interesting. However, more recently, my co-worker was fired, which has halted my progression, hopefully temporarily, while they look for a replacement. Plus, my manager has recently gone on maternity leave, so things are up in the air right now – fingers crossed for improvements in the coming weeks.
  • I have started a Happiness Coaching course, and also a Handcrafted Herbalism Mini-Course. I’ve always had an interest in herbs and herbal medicine so this should be interesting.
  • I read 13 books in March. I’m quite proud of that fact as I do have a lot on right now, with courses and Facebook pages and the setting up of new businesses. I guess my New Years Resolution of organising my time better is actually working, as it is giving me oodles more time to read!!
  • I have been attending the gym every week for the past five weeks. Go me! Okay, so I only stay for an about an hour, but I think that’s adequate right now, especially for somebody who loves sitting around and being lazy so much.
  • I got a pay rise at work. Woohoo! This only happened today, and this post has been in my drafts all week because I couldn’t concentrate on getting it finished. But again – WOOHOO!!

I can’t think of anymore achievements right now but I think they will suffice. I am feeling quite positive about life at the moment, so let’s just hope I continue in this vein.

Goals for April:

  1. Continue going to the gym. I really need to invest in a sports bra so I can jog on the walking machine thingies. And I still need to eat healthier and cut out on the wine. Well, on weekdays anyway..
  2. Complete my coaching course and get my Certificate of Completion. Then enroll onto the next course to further my coaching knowledge.
  3. Work at developing my website. This may take some time as I am not particularly tech-savvy. A blog is easy. An actual website that has to impress people into using my services is scary!
  4. Gain clients. I’m not quite sure how yet, but I’m working on it.
  5. Train the new girl at work. Yes, they have replaced my co-worker, the one who was fired, and the new girl/lady is starting later in the month. Hopefully she will be a good fit for the team.

They are pretty big goals so I’m going to limit it to just the five. Watch this space to see if I achieve them, or check out my website at https://ahappierlifeforyou.co.uk/. I would appreciate your follow over there!

What goals do you have for April?

February Overview

After January’s epic record of blog posts in one month, and a fantastic start to 2018 blog-wise, February has admittedly been a little hit and miss. I’m going to blame it on the fact that it’s a shorter month, but in reality I’ve been juggling so many different balls that it’s been difficult to keep all of them up. Who knows what to prioritise, when there are so many different projects on my schedule.

I don’t feel as positive as I did last month, but my life is currently a turmoil, and I’m unable to concentrate on anything for very long. This I will blame on the full moon.

So let’s put things into perspective, and look at my recent achievements as well as my goals for March.

Recent achievements

  • My dad came to visit and I had a lovely weekend catching up with family and friends I haven’t seen in a while.
  • I had my review at work and, following on from that, am changing my job role slightly to include different tasks. This is reassuring as I have become quite bored with the job role in recent months, and it has made me feel a little more positive about my career path within the company.
  • I have rejuvenated my first blog Fragments of my Mind, which includes poetry from my Facebook page of the same name. This is to coincide with my new Instagram page showcasing my poetry. I am hoping to self-publish a book of poetry later in the year, so watch this space!
  • My best friend Michelle came to stay for the weekend and we had a catch up. February has been quite a social month, for me anyway, which is probably another reason why I haven’t posted much! I do find socialising quite exhausting though, and part of me is glad that I’ve got it out of the way in one month (including my girls night out to Manchester at the end of January.) I can look forward to a few quiet months before the hoards descend on me again!
  • I drove in the snow, and didn’t get stressed about it! This is a definite improvement.

Now I’ve written it all down, I really don’t appear to have achieved much this month, which is disappointing. But again, I will blame it on the fact that it’s been a shorter month!

Goals for March

  1. I went to the gym today. Yes, I really did! And I’m going to try to make it a regular thing. Yep, I’ve shocked myself! Seriously though, I need to exercise more and, surprisingly, I actually enjoyed it.
  2. I plan to continue writing my poetry and get my book in order. I’d like it to be 200 pages long, so I’m finding inspiration wherever I can. My new friend Lindsay has been a massive help. She self-published her book of poetry Wild is She last year, and I’m quite honestly in awe.
  3. I’m going to attempt to get back into the habit of blogging regularly, and also catch up on my letter writing. I’m quite woefully behind with this. I have no explanation for this as I do love to write, whether it’s blog posts, letters or poetry. So why I find it difficult to motivate myself to write a letter to my friends, I really don’t know.
  4. Apparently, changes are afoot at work and I am interested to discover where this will leave me. Hopefully in a better place than I have been so far!

I’m planning on taking baby steps in the first quarter of the year so I will keep it to 4 goals for March. Admittedly, the majority are quite significant and potentially life-changing goals, so there is that. But there is no point in expecting too much from myself, so I’m happy with the 4. Extra achievements will be an added bonus!

What are your goals for March?

January Overview

So, I began the new year with a list of goals that I hoped to achieve during 2018. I must admit, some of them I started in good faith but quickly grew tired of, and although this is disappointing, I do have eleven more months to bring myself up to speed.

In contrast, I made certain changes that have really improved my daily life, so I am willing to overlook the failures for now. All in all, things are going pretty well.

Achievements

  • I have successfully started using my Twitter to promote my blog, and have met some lovely bloggers and followed some amazing blogs along the way.
  • I have reviewed a couple of books received directly from the authors via Twitter, which I see as an exciting development.
  • I hit and surpassed my 200 followers milestone, and am well on my way to 300.
  • I started a new Facebook page share group with my friend, recruited some awesome pages, and it is going brilliantly so far.
  • I have begun to schedule my Facebook posts and shares a day in advance, which has helped free up extra time in my day. I also feel so much more organised.
  • I have been spending 10 minutes a day on the exercise bike, which is a great start to my 2018 exercise regime. It may not seem like much, but it’s better than nothing.
  • I have been listening to a lot more music rather than switching the telly on, and have discovered some fantastic new artists. Well, new for me anyway!
  • I upgraded my phone and went from an iPhone 6 to a 7.
  • I’m a little more settled at work and have been learning new aspects of the job, which I am happy with. I might as well make the most of it while I’m there.
  • I spent an afternoon/evening in Manchester with my friends, eating and drinking cocktails, which was a lot of fun. We visited the Trafford Centre, and ate at TGI Fridays, which was a first for me, and very enjoyable.

[Photo: Mudslide at TGI Fridays]

So, those are the achievements I can bring to mind at the minute. In all honestly, I feel more positive at the beginning of this new year than I have in quite a while. I hope it stays this way.

Goals for February

  1. Make a doctors appointment. Yes, I still need to do that. I have a few minor ailments that have gone on for some time now, and I really need to nip them in the bud.
  2. Drink more water. I’m still struggling with that one. I’m quite a dry person, and I need to change that. After all, I can’t drink wine all of the time!
  3. Write some letters. I’m a little behind on my letter-writing after Christmas and the New Year, so I need to put aside a day to sit down and write them.
  4. Get myself some new glasses. I had an opticians appointment mid-January and they have significantly worsened, so I need to invest in stronger lenses. I have cataracts in both eyes, oddly enough, and next year may be the time to have that operation!
  5. Blog more! I really enjoy it, so why the hell not?!
  6. Complete the online Marketing Diploma course I started last year. I’m about halfway through so it shouldn’t take much longer. It is also something I am considering making a career move into. Or should I say, social media marketing, which is something I am kind of familiar with.

So there are my goals for February. Not too difficult, and quite easily achievable. If I pull my finger out anyway. We will graduate to bigger goals as the year progresses!

Happy Sunday!

Goodbye 2017, Hello 2018

Happy New Year! Yes, we are at the beginning of a new chapter, with 365 blank pages ahead of us to fill as we wish. I am feeling quite motivated today. I woke at my usual time of 6.15am and was up by 7.00am, despite seeing the New Year in with my son. After a cup of tea and a shower, I took down the Christmas decorations, which always makes me a little sad, tidied the living room, cleaned the kitchen, and threw together a sausage casserole for the slow cooker. I’m feeling enthusiastic for the year ahead, and the changes I intend to make.

As I detailed in my blog post on Saturday, rather than making a New Years Resolution as such, I am intending on making gradual small changes to my lifestyle in the hope of keeping this motivation alive throughout the year, and not only when I feel like it.

Now, for those of you who are familiar with my blog, I do tend to run things here entirely based on my emotions, and often don’t post for a while because I didn’t feel like it. This applies to most things in my life outside of work, where I am actually surprisingly organised and efficient.

I want to be organised and efficient at home too. Well, to an extent anyway, because I do enjoy my laidback way of living. Avoiding drama has been key in the past few years, and this is something I don’t particularly want to change for the sake of my sanity.

So, I’m going to make a list of small, achievable goals and changes I would like to make to my day-to-day life.

Goals for 2018

  1. Drink more water. I’m actually quite a dry person, and don’t even remember to drink, or eat, if I’m busy. I need to remedy this. I’ve downloaded the My Water Balance: Daily Drink Tracker app to hopefully help me monitor this.
  2. Deal with health issues when they arise. I am notoriously horrendous at looking after myself, and will rarely visit the doctors for ailments, preferring to work through it or use home remedies. Over the Christmas period, I have been suffering terribly from a urinary tract infection because I refused to make a doctors appointment when I had the chance. I need to make more time for things like this.
  3. Use scheduler more often for my Facebook pages. Running three Facebook pages alone on which I post at least five times a day is very time-consuming. Rather than live posts, I need to schedule posts when I have time at the weekend, which will free up time in the week for doctors appointments and water-drinking, etc.
  4. Find myself a friend. I am quite isolated at the moment, which I don’t mind. But it would be nice to have someone who would like to meet up from time to time. Preferably a new someone, and not some recycled friendship, so we can start from scratch. This will motivate me to leave the house and do stuff outdoors.
  5. Write letters more often. I have a few penfriends who I like to keep on the go, but don’t often find time to write to them. I need to make time.
  6. Move more! I am trying to walk more often rather than jumping in the car, but it needs to become more regular. Also, drag the exercise bike out of storage and do 10 minutes every day.
  7. De-clutter my wardrobe. Get rid of anything I no longer wear.
  8. Start a journal. I’ve always wanted to do this, but I need to keep to a routine of, maybe, writing every night before bed.
  9. Listen to more music. I have discovered some great new artists from a tv show I recently watched, and intend to stick the stereo on before the television from now on. Music motivates me far more than watching tv.
  10. Get with the times, and swap the stereo for something more up-to-date. A Bluetooth speaker, or whatever the kids (and everybody else) are using right now.
  11. Try something new. A writing class, yoga, Zumba, learning a new language.
  12. Organise my Pinterest. I’ve been meaning to do it for ages.
  13. Unsubscribe from annoying/uninteresting emails.
  14. Get a new shed, and spend more time in the garden.
  15. Eat healthier, and use more fresh food, fruit and veg.
  16. Make more of an effort with myself. Get my hair cut regularly, paint my nails. Anything to boost my self-esteem.
  17. Write more poetry.
  18. Look after the car. De-clutter and clean it, and keep a bag of essential supplies in the boot; foot pump, jump leads, phone charger, etc.
  19. Decorate my bedroom.
  20. Make more time for my family.

Well, I think that’s about it. There is a lot to get my teeth into, I admit, but these are things that will improve my life, step by tiny step. I need to change the way I do things in an effort to help me look at life outside of work more positively, and to make the most of it while I can.

I’ve got 365 days to do this in. Wish me luck!

Monthly Overview: November

I can hardly believe that it is December already. Wow, November has flown by! I am über excited for Christmas now, but where has the year gone?

I am thankful for fast weeks and chilled weekends, but the days are passing so quickly and they are days that I don’t particularly enjoy. I spend the week wishing for the weekend, wishing my life away, which isn’t good. Hopefully 2018 will bring some big changes.

Anyway, here we are again, in a round-up of my recent achievements and goals for the month ahead. Again, I don’t believe that I have achieved much, but let’s see as I wrack my brain for things to list. My life is not particularly eventful right now, but I quite like my quiet existence.

My recent achievements

  • I have been writing far more, poetry-wise anyway, although as I have mentioned before, I don’t really class my writing as ‘poetry’. I post most of it to my Facebook page, Fragments of my Mind, as well as my blog of the same name. I am considering looking into getting a book of poetry published, but the self-doubt always raises its ugly head.
  • My Christmas decorations are up! Yeah, I know that isn’t a November achievement, but it will be pretty pointless including it in my December overview, which I’ll be posting in January. After all, I generally take the decs down on New Year’s Day.

  • I tidied my kitchen to make it more Christmas-friendly. I am hosting Christmas this year for myself, my son, my brother and nephew, and I want to put in an effort to make the house look festive. My son and I rarely use the kitchen table and, up until recently, it was pushed up against the wall and the chairs were being used to house paperwork and magazines and general clutter. However, that’s all changed now! Clutter has been removed and distributed to the relevant places, and the table has been pulled out and cleared of junk. The kitchen definitely looks more welcoming.
  • I have settled into my job and am trying to take it day by day instead of constantly moaning and job hunting. To be honest, it isn’t any more enjoyable, and I find it a total waste of a day, but I’m definitely not the only person to feel this way. Also, I’ve just been given a pay rise, so I’ve decided to stick at it for now.
  • I am doing pretty well with my Christmas shopping, and only have a couple of bits and pieces to pick up. I’m ahead of the game for once, but no doubt I will panic last minute as per usual and buy more than I needed to.
  • I am continuing as admin of the Facebook group that I mentioned last time, and the group is improving in leaps and bounds. It’s a real shame that it isn’t a paid job, because I would far rather play about managing pages on Facebook than doing payroll!

This month has passed so quickly that it has been a challenge to achieve anything more than the above. I am purely motivated by Christmas at the moment, and anything else can wait until the new year.

Goals for December

  1. Finish my Christmas shopping. Nearly finished anyway, but it would be good to be in a position where I don’t feel I need to overcompensate. My son’s father is extremely money-orientated and it is so easy to be dragged into a present-buying competition. I refuse to this year, mainly because I can’t afford it, but also because why should I. I can’t win every time, after all! 😉
  2. Learn how to cook a roast dinner. As I mentioned above, I will be hosting Christmas which includes cooking a roast dinner. I’ve never done this before, and I’ve asked my mum to do a trial run with me. I’m 41 and have never cooked a roast dinner before. Yep, that’s right. It’s probably about time I learned.
  3. Post Christmas cards to my penpals. Yes, I am old school, and still write snail mail letters to people around the world, which I enjoy. I have five penpals at the moment, which isn’t that many. They live in New Zealand, Italy, Canada, Germany and England, and I like to send out Christmas cards early to ensure delivery in time. As I prefer low maintenance friendships where they don’t expect too much of me, I probably exchange 2-3 letters a year with each of them, which is mutually agreed upon. Although it is lovely to receive letters through the post, real life can often kill your writing mojo, and my friends understand and share this view. That’s why they are my friends. 🙂
  4. Send out a birthday card and gift to my best friend. Michelle lives in a different county altogether to me, and we only generally meet up twice a year. It is her birthday on the 7th and therefore I need to get a card and gift to her as I am unlikely to be able to hand it to her personally. It would be nice to meet up with her, but life has been so busy for her recently and I haven’t seen her in a while. Still, I am sure I can show my appreciation of her friendship from afar.

So that is it for now. Let’s see what December brings! Have a good one. 💜