Eternally Single.

So, as Valentines Day approaches and the shops are filled with heart-shaped balloons and over-priced flowers, that difficult question arises that I have to contend with every year.

What should I get Mum for her birthday?

Yep, my mum was born on Valentines Day, which is quite sweet. Can be quite pricey though if I decide to buy her flowers.

Nevertheless, she will be the only person I’ll be buying anything for on February 14th.

Another year as a single girl. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I was in a relationship on Valentines Day. If I wrack my brain..

2007. Yes, I have been single for going on 11 years. Well, there have been a couple of hiccups along the way, including the doomed love of my life. But none of them were real meet-the-parents, change-my-relationship-status-on-Facebook types of relationships. More a string of disappointments and bad judgements.

So I remain a Single Pringle for Valentines Day 2018, and it really doesn’t bother me – it never has. Having worked in retail for so many years, VD is just another over-priced event designed to sell more crap in an attempt to prove your love for someone.

Do I sound cynical? Maybe I am, or maybe not. Do we really need tacky mugs and teddy bears holding hearts to show our love for someone?

The answer is a resounding NO. If you love someone, they should know that year round, and not just on one day in February. Cute cards with romantic messages are lovely, but they shouldn’t be used as a way to declare your love – unless you are a secret admirer or looking to break the ice. But long-term, relationship kind of love should be shown regularly, and not just as an afterword in a card.

Yes okay, I’m single so I really shouldn’t have an opinion on this. But I was once in a relationship – yes really. He wasn’t into showing love of any kind, and Valentines Day was always approached in a half-hearted, if-I-have-to kind of way, which effectively killed off any thoughts of romance. It, along with a plethora of other failings, eventually killed off our relationship too.

Nowadays, I like being single. No hassle, no drama. Also, no flowers, and no cute cards with teddy bears on. In my experience, the romance I dream of doesn’t exist for people like me, so I’m quite happy to buy a romantic ready meal for one and open a bottle of wine in front of the telly. No expectations, no disappointments.

Okay, don’t listen to me. I’m a bitter, love-less singleton.

Who needs Valentines Day? In fact, I propose a second Halloween instead. Loads more fun.

Monthly Overview: October 

I always feel a little sad once October is over. It is by far my favourite month, with Halloween at its pinnacle. However, once Halloween is over, October is over (obviously), and that makes me a little sad. 

November is a non-entity month, the filler that bridges the gap between Halloween and Christmas. October’s ugly sister. The anti-climax after the run-up to Mischief Night. But it is still officially autumn, and we love autumn, right? We shouldn’t be so hard on November. 

After the negative vibe of my August and September overviews, I am actually feeling a little more upbeat as we move into November. I’m not sure why as nothing much has changed. I’m just in a better frame of mind. 

My recent achievements:

  • I finally completed Assignment 1 in my Professional Freelance Journalism course. Now, while this is certainly an achievement, it isn’t something to be entirely proud of. I enrolled on the course in September 2016, and have only just submitted my first assignment. Yep, I’m not the most organised of students. Still, at least I’ve finally made a start!
  • I finally got my son’s PC fixed after having to send it back TWICE. Suffice to say, I probably won’t be using that company again.
  • I have decided to put some of my poetry and creative writing out there, and have submitted a few pieces to various sites, including allpoetry.com. To be honest, I wouldn’t really class my writing as ‘poetry’, more little snippets of stuff that is on my mind. There seems to be a lot of people about at the moment who write things that are classed as poetry, but aren’t really. So why not try my hand at writing words and arranging them prettily. You can see some of my offerings at Fragments of my Mind, my other blog. It’s definitely not hearts and flowers, so be warned.
  • My dad paid us a visit from Cornwall, and we had a lovely long weekend catching up with family and friends. Luckily, I had the following week off work to recover. After three days of non-stop socialising, my batteries were in serious need of a recharge!
  • I managed to carve two pumpkins on my own in half an hour. I’m quite proud of that. Okay, so they weren’t the best pumpkins ever. But they looked good when lit up.

  • I found a gardener to tidy up my back garden before the winter months, and it’s looking good again. I’m not particularly the green-fingered type and, although I like to have plants around the house, I’m easily put off from getting out in the garden by bad weather or creepy crawlies. Yes, I’m a bit of a wimp when it comes to spiders! 
  • I have been made admin of a Facebook page share group and am enjoying building up the group and organising things. Suits me down to the ground!
  • I’ve been attempting to exercise more, and even visited nearby West Kirkby beach on my week off to walk my mum’s dog, which my son and I really enjoyed. So did Sophie (see below.)


So there are quite a few notable achievements. I am feeling much more positive about things, although I’m not sure why as my purse strings are very tightly tied right now, and Christmas is fast approaching. But let’s not think about that right now..

Goals for November:

  1. Start my Christmas shopping. This is quite important as I haven’t bought anything yet, and I’m not exactly loaded with spare cash. Luckily, I only really have my son to buy for, but 12 year-old boys are notoriously expensive to buy for!
  2. Complete Assignment 2 of my Freelance Journalism course. This involves writing an article and interviewing people to obtain quotes as if I’m a real journalist. I’m slightly confused as I’m not, but I’ll give it a go..
  3. Bonfire Night. This actually falls tomorrow but tonight is the main night, being a Saturday. It sounds like a war zone outside and the cat is not happy.
  4. Learn how to make a roast dinner. Yes, at 41, I have never cooked a roast dinner before, and I have invited my brother and his son over for Christmas dinner. So I will hopefully be getting tips from my mum.
  5. Carry on job hunting. I’m still bored to tears in my current role, and desperately need a new challenge.
  6. Visit the Christmas markets. I really want to, but I’m not sure it’s worth it as I am skint. I love all things Christmassy and would love to visit the markets in a foreign country, only that is unlikely to happen this year. So I am happy to make do with Manchester or Liverpool, or even Chester.

Well there are my goals for this month. I’m off to watch the fireworks. Happy Bonfire Night!

20 Of My Favourite Autumn Quotes

As you may know if you have been keeping track of my blog, I love autumn. It is by far my favourite season. There are no words to explain how this time of year makes me feel. And I especially love October, which is the pinnacle of the autumn season. The month is packed full of my favourite things; my son’s birthday, the smell of woodsmoke, the golden fire in the trees, the falling leaves. And, of course, the jewel of the autumn season – Halloween. 

I have to admit, everything post-Halloween pales into insignificance until Christmas, and November almost gets forgotten. But it is technically still autumn, and did I mention how much I love autumn?

Of course, I’m not the only one, as I found recently while searching the internet for quotes to post on my Facebook page. There are so many literary quotes out there that capture the beauty of the season perfectly. And so, instead of finding my own words to describe how wonderful autumn is, I’m going to give you 20 of my favourite quotes.

  1. “No spring nor summer beauty hath such grace, as I have seen in one autumnal face.” — John Donne
  2. “Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.” — Unknown
  3. “I loved autumn, the one season of the year that God seemed to have put there just for the beauty of it.” — Lee Maynard
  4. “How beautifully leaves grow old. How full of light and color are their last days.” — John Burroughs
  5. “Autumn mornings: sunshine and crisp air, birds and calmness, year’s end and day’s beginnings.” — Terri Guillemets
  6. “Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall.” — F. Scott Fitzgerald 
  7. “I can smell autumn dancing in the breeze. The sweet chill of pumpkin and crisp sunburnt leaves.” — Unknown
  8. “I’m so glad I live in a world where there are Octobers.” — L.M. Montgomery 
  9. “Autumn… the year’s last, loveliest smile.” — William Cullen Bryant
  10. “And all at once, summer collapsed into fall…” — Oscar Wilde
  11. “My favorite color is October.” — Unknown
  12. “Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.” — Albert Camus
  13. “If a year was tucked inside of a clock, then Autumn would be the magic hour.” — Victoria Erickson
  14. “Autumn is my time. I am the most radiant and full of energy when the leaves are falling and there is a ghost of change in the air.” — Unknown
  15. “And the sun took a step back, the leaves lulled themselves to sleep and Autumn was awakened.” — Raquel Franco
  16. “There is magic in the night when pumpkins glow by moonlight.” — Unknown
  17. “Now Autumn’s fire burns slowly along the woods and day by day the dead leaves fall and melt.” — William Allingham
  18. “Autumn wins you best by this its mute appeal to sympathy for its decay.” — Robert Browning
  19. “I know the lands are lit, with all the autumn blaze of Goldenrod.” — Helen Hunt Jackson
  20. “It looked like the world was covered in a cobbler crust of brown sugar and cinnamon.” — Sarah Addison Allen

Happy October! #WeekendCoffeeShare

My #WeekendCoffeeShare this week is actually going to be a #WeekendTeaShare, in my case anyway, although I can offer coffee if you prefer, or lemon tea, or even hot chocolate; I have a plethora of hot drink options to offer. The choice is yours. I myself will sip at this lovely cup of good ole Yorkshire Tea as I summarise the past five days.

I opened the week suffering from a bad cold, which rather surprised me as I am rarely ill. I started with a sore throat and runny nose on the Friday and snuffled my way through the day at work. Saturday was the same, which I anticipated, but I stocked up on cold and flu capsules and assumed I would be better by Sunday. Generally, I am only sick for around two days, which has been quite annoying in the past when I have considered milking an illness. You can’t really milk something that no longer exists! Well, some people can, but my inbuilt honesty won’t let me do that. This time, however, I woke on the Sunday morning feeling like death warmed up, and looking like it too! This continued well into the week, and even now I can still feel the remnants of the cold in my stuffy nose and slightly sore throat. I must be getting old. Either that or I’m just not looking after myself properly. I have been aware for a while that I need to exercise more. Since taking an office job last year, I basically sit on my backside for the majority of my life, which can’t be great for my health. That’s one for my to-do list; get off my arse and do something!

I’ll think about it, anyway.

Today is the first day of October, which I am excited about. I love October. I’m not really sure what exactly I love about it. The vibrant reds and golds in the trees. The fallen leaves. Being able to wear snuggly jumpers and put the central heating on without looking odd. Halloween. A reason for the weather to be crappy. Hot chocolate and stews. My son’s birthday. Spending 15 minutes defrosting the car before work each morning.

Okay, not the last one.

For the past two years, I have enjoyed a holiday in October; Cyprus in 2015 and Crete last year. This year, I unfortunately couldn’t afford it. Previously, my son was in primary school, and his head teacher was fairly lenient around holidays in term time, as long as your child’s attendance was good. However, now he is at high school, all of this has changed, and holidays during term time are unquestionably NOT ALLOWED. So we will have to wait until I win the lottery or something.

Apart from holidays, I am also a big fan of Halloween. I love the whole idea of it more than I actually love the actual day, because it inevitably rains. I love buying pumpkins and attempting to carve (destroy) them. I love decorating the house with fake spiders webs and Keep Out signs. I love seeing the kids out trick-or-treating, even though, as I mentioned above, it’s usually in the rain. Sometimes, I even love to dress up and go out with my best friend Michelle. Not this year, unfortunately, but I’m still looking forward to Halloween. I dream of hosting a fancy dress party, but my natural aversion to people has so far prevented me from getting any further than searching up Halloween on Pinterest.

Anyway, I digress. My week has mainly involved me being ill, and work being the same old, same old. As of tomorrow, we will be out in the main office with the recruiters instead of hidden away in our own little Team Accounts room. Apparently we don’t mix enough with everybody else, hence us being uprooted. I find it extremely unfair, but that’s mainly because I like hiding away from the crowds. This coming week is going to be an eye-opener! 

I’ll keep you posted. 💜